Problems that precipitate suicide are usually temporary ones–unfortunately, suicide is a permanent solution to these temporary troubles. Life’s difficulties can be extremely painful and may appear to last forever; however, better times do happen.
“Suicide hurts us all. When a student kills himself in a dorm, the whole campus is affected. His fellow students, his teacher, his resident advisor all feel the loss in some way or another. It challenges each of them, each of us. Clearly, we must work together against suicide not just for the sake of the victims but for all our sakes.”
Although no one can predict with 100% accuracy who will attempt suicide and when, the following signals may indicate a risk of suicide. Generally speaking, the more warning signs present, the greater the risk of suicidal behavor.
The Suicidal Problem and The Problem of Suicide
The more specific is the plan of suicide, the more serious is the intent. And the intent can be told directly–”I’m going to kill myself.” Or indirectly– “You would be better off without me,” or, “Soon you won’t have to worry about me anymore.”
How You Can Help:
Listen, Listen, Listen. We often undervalue the power of active listening. Help them to hear themselves by rephrasing their words and feelings.
Be supportive. Show that you care. “I care about you.” “You are important to me.”
Avoid being judgmental or arguing about the moral issues regarding suicide.
Take every complaint or reference to suicide seriously.
Be direct when addressing suicidal intentions: Ask: “John, are you thinking about suicide?” If the person is suicidal, studies show that such a question can be a relief. He or she may actually welcome the chance to express painful feelings. If the person is not suicidal, you have expressed care and concern.
Evaluate the immediate risk. If the person is experiencing suicidal thoughts, check out the next three predictors of immediate risk: the presence of a suicide plan, possession of means for suicide, and a time schedule.
With the presence of each progressive predictor, the chances of immediate harm increase. Never leave a person alone who has secured a means for suicide. An added note: Protect yourself. If the person is armed, leave the premises and call the police.
Talk with others. This is extremely important! Do not allow yourself to be the only one helping a suicidal person. Recognize the limits of your expertise and responsibility. Share your concerns with appropriate staff members. Do not be bound by secrecy. An angry friend is better than a dead one!
Suicide: A Major, Preventable Mental Health Problem
http://teenshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/suicide.html
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